Specializing in Faith, Relationships, and Trauma

I specialize in religious trauma, focusing on faith-based couples whose relationship struggles are compounded by their spiritual life. When a marriage faces challenges, whether through conflict, intimacy issues, different paths, infidelity, or porn usage, couples often experience difficulty with their faith and believing that God is for them. They might receive comments like, "pray about it" or "just obey scripture," which can lead to a perceived view of judgment or condemnation from the community they once relied on. My work is dedicated to couples navigating this complex, painful intersection. I help partners heal, strengthen their bond, and find a way to re-engage with their faith and spirituality in a way that is authentic and sustaining for their relationship.

Navigating Shame, Fear, and Relational Pressure

When your marriage and personal life deviate from your faith community's expectations, the emotional pain often manifests as shame, fear, and intense relational pressure. This struggle transcends theological disagreement. Couples frequently grapple with the anxiety of not fitting in, the stress of raising children outside of rigid religious guidelines, or the pain of being judged for a partner's addiction or a loved one who has come out as LGBTQIA+. These pressures create a deep sense of isolation, making it agonizing to navigate your relationship with your church, your God, and each other. We will work to address the confusion, anxiety, and marital stress that arise in your faith journey.

A Path to Healing and Redefining Your Faith

My approach is built on professional expertise and relevant personal experience. As a licensed clinician and former pastor and missionary for over 25 years, I offer a unique, non-judgmental understanding of the language, culture, and deep emotional pull of faith. I specialize in working with couples, employing both Biblical principles and Solution-Focused Narrative Therapy. This method empowers you to challenge harmful narratives and separate your identity from past problems. Together, we will co-create a new, liberating story for your life and relationship, one that prioritizes your authentic values, strengthens your bond, and allows you to redefine your faith on your own terms. This process is about building a spiritual life that is strong, honest, and entirely your own.

Ready to Begin Your Healing Journey?

Whether you're ready to schedule a first session or simply want to learn more about how I can support you, I invite you to connect.

Bennie Gonzales is a Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist #155382 Supervised and Employed by:

Ventura Community Counseling, Supervised by Arianna Attento LMFT License #107387 and
Center for Psychotherapy and Integrative Health, Supervised by Cynthia Frederickson, LMFT License #108440.

Email me at Bennie@BennieGonzalesMFT.com.

Specializing in Faith, Relationships, and Trauma

Navigating Shame, Fear, and Relational Pressure

A Path to Healing and Redefining Your Faith

Ready to Begin Your Healing Journey?

Set up a 15 minute consult: contact@BennieGonzalesMFT.com